Possessiveness is defined as” a desire to control or dominate another ,especially in order to limit that person’s relationships with others”.While some may be of the opinion that it arises out of true love,I believe that true love would always liberate instead of control.
Possessiveness arises out of one’s own insecurities.The fear of losing someone you love is the root cause behind it. This results in an overwhelming desire to control them and to stop them from mingling with the world.Every one of us would have felt this feeling for atleast one person in their life. While the knowledge that it is not wrong to be possessive can free you from a lot of anxiety and nervousness, it is also not one to be revered.
This feeling is like cancer.It feeds on your insecurities and fears and consumes you as a whole making you even more insecure.It can affect those relationships which you cherish .The more possessive you become,the more you hurt yourself and your relationship.
True love for a person means that you trust the person wholeheartedly and believing in the principle of letting go. Do not let go of your relationships but of your desire to control. Realise that it is okay to feel possessive or insecure and it is not your fault.Everybody is insecure in some or the other way. Believe that what is yours will be yours no matter what. Sometimes letting go is the best choice.
Do what makes you feel good about yourself.Love yourself ‘coz you wouldn’t be able to love someone else wholeheartedly if you don’t love someone who is going to be thee with you for your entire life.Celebrate impermanence.Understand that nothing is permanent and every relationship is got to end sometime or the other. Letting go will make you feel more content and happy and helps you live life to the fullest.
The most possessive people love you the most.But they also suffer the most..
No one is worth more than you inner peace.Trust me.